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Has Stress Taken The Intimacy out of your life??
Sex was thought to be a great stress reliever. Increasing our endorphins’ and helping to relieve minor aches and pains, too. Our 21st century stress us very difficult to relieve quickly and much more complex then every twenty five years ago. Even a 21 year old male will have some performance issues from time to time. So, with that in mind consider the 30 year old couple, just finding the time and energy for intimacy. This can be a chore and spontaneity is a lost luxury.
How do you increase your intimacy and enjoy sex more while decreasing your stress levels?
Remember to get into the stress conditions you are now in, took quite some time. You can’t expect instant reversal.
Like any good habit stress-free sex or calm sex takes some effort. The great side is it is a lot of fun.
Remember what foreplay was? Yes, dust off the ideas from the back of your brain and think.
Communicate with your partner/spouse in advance. The planning phase is fun in itself. Plan to send sexy suggestive text messages- create code words and nick names for each other as well. (I’m not going into phone sex here! Perhaps in an other article. ) Leave notes for each other around the house as well. This subtle verbal foreplay sparks the imagination and arouses the senses, too.
By thinking with the attitude of a 20 year old couple the 30 or 40 or even 50 year old couples will focus on pleasure and not on the every day stresses.
Keep your words and ideas relaxed and calming. You will find that after some calm relaxed intimate encounters with your spouse/ partner you’ll find your stress levels decrease considerably.
The calming habit will grow, you will find that his performance will be better and sustained. While your response time and intensity will be quicker and stronger.
Calming Capsule # 9
Some people seem to attract stress to themselves. I once had a boss who was a bully. I could define his attitude: He who establishes argument by noise and command shows that his reason is weak. I was able to assert myself using a calm attitude and relaxed focused intent. Calmly I did not back down.
He quieted his tone and listened, our working relationship increased and we got things accomplished.
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Calming Capsules for stressed nurses and caregivers
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Reprograminging your Anxiety is easy one you know how
We all have ideas, reasons, coping mechanisms and just because:
- Because I'm fat.
- Because I'm tall.
- Because I have big feet.
- Because I'm uncoordinated.
- Because I'm too young.
- Because I'm too old.
The list goes on and on!
These reasons and because are excuses plain and simple.We create excuses to avoid confrontation. We create excuses to justify not doing something. But we feel anxiety and stressful doing this.
The core truth, we think it will be 'easier' not to do something or say something.
The other side of the anxiety coin is we will say yes, Yes to almost everything. It's 'easier' than to comfront or stand up to someone or project our true views or desires.
Okay, so why do we think it is 'easier'?
Computers- Nursing Documentation- Headache or Calm Companion.
The important thing is can you adapt, to feel comfortable using the computer? I don't mean you get the warm fuzzies, just comfortable.
So many of the newer nurses have used a computer all during their nursing education. The computer is comfortable for them.
The nurses that have worked in hospitals for a number of years, are finding the transitioning to computers a very stressful and overwhelming process.
They even stress over the various learning curves. Blaming themselves for not learning quick enough. Help is always available. There is no need to get stressed out.
My advice is to take the transition in stride. Ask and Seek out the help you need. Get all your questions answered and be aware that new questions will always come up. This way you learn, and so does the computer help center.
Everyone has a love/ hate relationship with the process. Remember with the implementing of a system that you devise you get your charting done in a timely manner. Making every one concerned happy.
Hospital nurses usually don't have as much of a problem as the home health nurses do when it comes to timely and accurate charting. The home health nurse usually has to wait until she is no longer with her patient to enter her information in the computer. Patients and family members at times feel uncomfortable with a laptop computer on the nurses lap. It may be a bit impersonal to them.
Allow yourself a few months to get used to the new charting methods. It has been my experience that nurses that dislike the idea of computer charting in the beginning are the first to miss it when the computer system goes down.
The point I'm making here is progress means growth. Growth should be stress free.Look at nature, does grass stress when growing, a tree when it is bringing forth fruit? The answer is no stress for nature and no stress for you the nurse.
Please feel free to share your comments and stories.
Alarm Clocks that will not 'Alarm" your Stress Reacters
You do have many choices now a days.
There is still the windup bell ringing, ear stressing,teeth clinching alarm clocks.
The buzzer/tone alarms that have a graduated tone. they go from semi loud to 100 desibles in a few seconds. This is ok if you have to have a loud alarm clock from years of abuse to your ears.
Seriously, for a more pleasant way to wake up in the morning or after a much deserved nap, get an alarm clock that will play your favorite CD, at a volume you can really control.
Better still and something I use myself. Is an alarm clock that offers nature sounds.
These have a variety of choices.
Mountain stream, rain forest birds, ocean waves, thunderstorm, and spring rain. You will find that you will start your day a whole lot less stressful and a lot happier.
I also recommend the nature sound alarms for when you meditate, you can set them as timers as well. Hey, have your clock mulitask for once.
Please as always share your stories and comments.
Water Features for inside and outside the house that relieve stress
Remember when you sat by the ocean watching the water flow up to the shore or splash around the rocks--
I remember cool mountain streams flowing slowly and gently over the rocks and moss. The sounds, sights and feelings of calm were wonderful. The clear cold water running over my bare feet, the soft velvety feeling of the green moss.. Oh the memories!!
Visualizing and remembering the calm is great when you are using this during your daily meditation time.
Another way to get these feelings of calm is to bring the out doors inside. There are several ways to accomplish this.
- Small water features with a pump inside, these run on electricity, they some times come with lights, but most have small smooth stones you can arrange for the full effect of the water sounds.
- Get a DVD with ocean sounds or mountain streams. This will give you a continuous visual and sound experience that will calm you almost instantly. These DVD's also have quiet music as well as the nature sounds.
- If you are fortunate enough to have a park or a resort close to were you live they may have water features. By all means go and have a picnic or bring a favorite book.
Always share these times with your children, partner or a friend. Calming relaxing moments that are shared mean so much more and build wonderful memories.
This is all part of yur allowing yurself to self- nuture. Recharging you internal "energy" and fulling your 'giving cup'.
please share your stories and comments.